Cynthia Nixon Clears Up Controversial 'Gay By Choice' Remark
Pardon the pun, but let Cynthia Nixon set something absolutely straight: she may not view bisexuality as a conscious choice, but her choosing a homosexual relationship over a heterosexual one absolutely was.
The co-star of HBO's iconic "Sex and the City" ensemble cast and its following two movies brought the heat of gay activists upon herself when she recently told the New York Times "I understand that for many people [homosexuality is not a choice], but for me it's a choice, and you don't get to define my gayness for me."
Nixon added "A certain section of our community is very concerned that it not be seen as a choice, because if it's a choice, then we could opt out. I say it doesn't matter if we flew here or swam here, it matters that we are here and we are one group and let us stop trying to make a litmus test for who is considered gay and who is not."
Nixon's remarks were met with multiple public retorts by LGBT activists fearing the worst that Nixon's remarks had dealt the gay community's equal-rights struggle a critical public blow from one of its own. Nixon herself now wants it made crystal clear that she wasn't addressing anybody else's homosexuality/lack thereof but her own.
"My recent comments in the New York Times were about me and my personal story of being gay," Nixon stated publicly, according to the U.K. Daily Mail. She's currently engaged to her partner of eight years, but was previously married 15 years to a man who fathered her two children.
"I believe we all have different ways we came to the gay community and we can't and shouldn't be pigeonholed into one cultural narrative which can be inconclusive and disempowering," she added. "However, to the extent that anyone wishes to interpret my words in a strictly legal context I would like to clarify: while I don't often use teh word, the technically precise term for my orientation is 'bisexual.' I believe bisexuality is not a choice, it is a fact. What I have 'chosen' is to be in a gay relationship."
It was in the New York Times interview that Nixon said she avoided the "B" word because "nobody likes the bisexuals."
"Everybody likes to dump on the bisexuals," Nixon told the Times. "But I do completely feel that when I was in relationships with men, I was in love and in lust with those men. And then I met [her fiance] Christine and I fell in love and lust with her. I am completely the same person and I was not walking around in some kind of fog. I just responded to the people in front of me the way I truly felt."
Truth Wins Out founder Wayne Besen was among the most concerned public replies, stating he didn't believe Nixon "put adequate thought into the ramifications of her words." The American gay community has already coped during the run-up to Republican presidential nomination with candidates Rick Santorum and Michele Bachmann making it very publicly known that they considered homosexuality not a natural occurence but a deviant, immoral choice.
"Cynthia did not put adequate thought into the ramifications of her words, and it is going to be used when some kid comes out and their parents force them into some ex-gay camp while she's off drinking cocktails at fancy parties," Besen said. "When people say it's a choice, they are green-lighting an enormous amount of abuse because if it's a choice, people will try to influence and guide young people to what they perceive as the right choice."