Ep 16. The Tenth Anniversary

In Everybody Loves Raymond season 4 episode 16, titled "The Tenth Anniversary," the Barones celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary. As they plan a romantic night out, Ray becomes preoccupied with his own idea for a grand gesture to show his love, ultimately leading to chaos and frustration among the family. Meanwhile, Robert struggles with feelings of envy towards Ray's successful marriage and seeks advice from Frank, who gives him some questionable tips.

The episode begins with Debra excitedly preparing for her and Ray's anniversary dinner while Ray seems more distracted than usual. After much prompting, he reveals that he has been planning a surprise for Debra all week but has hit a roadblock in execution. Despite Debra's assurance that the anniversary itself is enough of a celebration, Ray becomes fixated on making his grand gesture a reality.

At the same time, Robert is feeling bitter and resentful towards Ray and Debra's seemingly perfect marriage. He confides in their father, Frank, who advises him to channel his jealousy into anger and aggression towards his brother. Robert takes this advice to heart, resulting in a disastrous confrontation at the anniversary dinner.

As the night progresses, Ray's elaborate plan falls apart and he and Debra end up arguing in front of the entire family. Robert's jealousy and bitterness come to a head, causing tensions to boil over and ultimately forcing Frank to step in and offer a surprising source of wisdom.

Throughout the episode, the show explores themes of love, jealousy, and the pressure to live up to societal expectations of marriage. The characters' flaws and imperfections are highlighted, making for a relatable and often comedic portrayal of the challenges of married life.